As a trainer and energy healer, I've heard and seen it all. Most flow into the New Year with good intentions to change their health. Most resolutions focus on the external factors of losing weight, looking better and trying to fit into small clothes.
Although good, most people don't stick with their goals because they focus on external factors. Our society (and technological advances) prioritize saving time as a necessity in life. This gives us the false belief that change can be done quickly. This is turn will NEVER be true. Most change takes time, if not years.
Humans have been celebrating New Year changes for 4,000 years since the Babylonian era in March. The Romans changed New Years to January. January gets its name from Janus, the two-faced God that looks forward to the new year and backward to the old year. Janus was the protector of arches, gates, doors and endings and beginnings.
This is important because people have given up on resolutions, when in reality, each year should be celebrated as you've overcome many obstacles from the previous year. Where most focus on exercise, we have found resolutions to be "stupid," but in reality, we focused on the wrong aspects of life.
When we focus on our inner world, personality and charecter, I believe we better our human nature. The New Year represents a fresh start, a rebirth that our souls naturally crave.
Instead of focusing on external and heavily marketed resolutions, look within to better yourself. These resolution ideas are one of the most honest and rarest forms of ourselves that we can transform to become better human beings. They are easy to think about and can adopt several of these challenges throughout the year.
The biggest let down is that people think they need to live a pure life that fits to the standards of society in order to have success. Our resolutions are reflections, and the gateway, to us becoming better people. When we work on ourselves, we change the world.
-Be Honest - Seriously, be honest. We all have a shadow side. The more honest you can be about your personal flaws, the easier it is to heal and work on those charecteristics.
-Start a Journal - Start writing. Maybe its your thoughts. Maybe it's poetry. Maybe its an idea. Try to write at least once per week. When you look back at your thoughts at the end of 2017, you will see what you've been through, overcame or have yet to experience.
-Get Out of Your Comfort Zone - Have you wanted to work on an art project? Do you desire to move abroad? Miraculous change occurs when we exit the world we know and discover the destination unknown.
-Detox with Technology - Technology is "killing us." Whether you omit push notifications, or set your phone aside at night, we need to get back into our bodies and into our soul.
-Recognize Your Weaknesses - Are you too impulsive? Are you too dramatic? We all have weaknesses that can be worked on. Along with being honest, whether you need to take a meditation class or join a meet up group (aka getting out of your comfort zone)
-Read Something New - Especially in politics, people love the "echo chamber," which is hearing what you want to hear (being around always like minded people). Read something different, new or a topic that is different from your perspective. The more psychology we understand, the easier it is to navigate in life.
-Stop Making Excuses - Do you have an excuse for everything? Are you always right and never wrong? Overcoming deeply-entrenched psychological behaviors is not easy to overcome. Unless the person is totally oblivious to their life, most of us know from that little voice in our head that we make chronic excuses. Tired, busy, don't have enough time - there's an excuse for everything in life. Once you recognize your excuses you can better take ownership from your life.
-Put Yourself First - From health to stress management, it is important to put your foot down and take care of yourself.
-Stop Being a Doormat - Nothing weakens our soul more than letting people chronically walk all over us. At some point in our life, we must cut the key to our own life instead of allowing the lock smith to turn us left and right, and even change our lock.
-Allow Yourself to Recieve - Most givers are not open to recieving. We are trained to think we are not good enough or do not deserve good things. We all deserve a beautiful life. Learn the art of giving and recieving to find the balance your soul desires. If someone wants to do you a favor, let them!
-Get Creative - Creativity fills our soul. Whether its reading a book, making jewelry or taking an art class, do something that inspires your mind, body and soul.
Most of us are looking for model makeovers or miraculous transformations. Accept that life is about taking baby steps and the small resolutions lead us to the biggest changes.
What's your New Years Resolution?
Elizabeth Rae Kovar M.A. is Author of her memoir, Finding Om and is a Fitness Trainer, Yogi, Reiki Master, Presenter and Lover of Life. To view her portfolio please visit www.elizabethkovar.com