Soul mates. Who doesn’t want to meet one? If you have any idyllic notion about love, you may be curious to meet a soul mate. In modern days, the term, “soul mate” coins a romantic notion between two people. Although common, there are many harsh realities about soul mates, which may not lead to love, romance and marriage.
-Soul Mates Have Work & Lessons– Many people believe that soul mates have “their work cut out for them.” Although the bubbly and gooey feelings exist, long-term there may be challenges that need worked out. Challenges vary across the board. Differences may include religious orientation, personality conflicts, or your soul mate is married with kids. Somewhere in the spiritual world, (most likely) your souls created a contract to meet at a certain point in life. You both planned out your mission on the earth plane and decided to learn your lessons alone and together. This leads to my next point….
-Soul Mates Do Not Always Mean Romance – This is the hardest challenge for most people. Why would the universe send two people who are madly fond and in love with each other, but make it impossible to be with each other? Welcome to the life of lessons and souls mates. The harsh reality is that meeting a soul mate does not necessarily mean its going to lead to love, romance and marriage.
Free will can choose to be together, but there could be potentially difficult lessons and heartaches that lead to deeper psychological damage. Deep within, you know the lesson, but may not want to admit it. Many soul mates lead to great friends when you can accept the lessons that need to be learned. Soul mates may also present themselves in the same gender. There is a reason why people say, “soul sister” or a “brother from another mother.”
Rags to Riches – I wrote about this in my previous post, but want to emphasize true love versus idealism. The illusion of modern reality is that we all dream of meeting a rich, stable person who dresses nice, drives a nice car and swindles us with fancy meals. Many people who want those qualities in a (wo)man are running in a hamster wheel chasing an illusion and fail to recognize that life sent them their soul mate years ago. But, because of being blinded by materialism (s)he kicked the soul mate to the curb in hopes to meet his or her “dream mate.” You have met a soul mate when you TRULY do not care about their fashion, style, religion or income. If you love the fairy tales where the prince falls in love with a peasant lady, you need to realize that some soul mates are sent to us with the same story set in modern times. When you chase money and possessions you lose prospect of reality, and life may continue to send you the same lessons over and over again until you “get it.”
You May Have More Than One – Most people dream of meeting “the one.” Many people may meet “the one” or marry once. But, for most they have more than one soul mate. As mentioned before, when you create your “soul contract” for the earth plane, you have a plan, or blueprint, on whom you’ll meet and around what age. But, sometimes you end up meeting people that you are not supposed to meet. These soul mates (usually seen as impossible to live with due to earthly issues or soul contracts) were given access to meet you from a higher power. Generally, these are sent as lessons although the connection is intense.
Soul Mates are Humans – Unfortunately, we live in a modern world where the media and consumerism influence people. You may meet the man or woman of your dreams, but he or she is “not ready.” The person may be too immature and can treat you like shit. This is because the person is influenced through the superficial layer of life rather than connecting with the soul. Due to this, the person needs further soul development to pursue a cohesive relationship. This leads to the next point….
Unexpected Loss of Connection –A soul mate can disappear as fast as the steam that evaporates from boiling water. If this happens, it may not be your fault. This is an indicator that the soul mate was a lesson and not meant to be in your life forever. If the universe truly does NOT want you to be with the person, it will find a way – trust me! Divine interventions will block emails, text messages and anything else that would connect the two people. This could be part of the soul contract. Once their work and lessons are complete – poof they are gone.
Soul Mates Show You Something – If you are going through a hard time in your life, or believe that love is not possible, a soul mate enter your life to show you that deep love, or good people do exist. Some soul mates enter your life to boost your confidence or to work out karmic debt you both need to resolve.
These “harsh” realities are not meant to scare you or make you sad. But, in one moment of our lives when a soul mate enters and things are not “working,” there may be a reason behind it. When you look back years later after meeting a particular soul mate, you may realize that their presence was the best thing that happened to you. Humans are emotional creatures. When you detach from the emotion, and live with awareness and gratitude you can better appreciate the purpose of the meeting. Some people live life “blinded” and are not “open” to meeting fellow soul connections.
We all hope to fall in love and live with our soul mates, but depending on the "level or degree" of the soul mate, their presence has a purpose. One soul mate may prepare you for the next person with whom you may have a better life experience.
Have you met a soul mate and found that their purpose had a meaning rather than a lifelong connection? Please feel free to share your experiences below.
Elizabeth Rae Kovar M.A. is Author of her memoir, Finding Om and is a Fitness Trainer, Yogi, Reiki Master, Presenter and Lover of Life. To view her portfolio please visit www.elizabethkovar.com