Soul Mate Series: Help! My Soul Mate is Married! What Should I do?

As humans evolve in the Age of Aquarius, a new consciousness will unfold in humanity and relationships. Soul mates are not a new concept, but many people may find their soul mates in this new age. It’s part of the human “duty” to expand consciousness with spiritual and meaningful relationships.  

So, what do I do if I meet my soul mate while I am married?

First, take a deep breath and do not cheat. Although you may be caught in the most beautiful romance known to man, cheating produces a psychological mess between both parties. If one person is single, he or she will desire and hope the other will leave his or her marriage.
 
It sounds like common sense, but many people follow the heart rather than logic in this type of scenario. Although the single person will want the other person to leave the marriage, the individual who is married has a lot of thinking to do. They have two decisions, to leave or stay with the marriage. The presence of a soul mate during marriage blossoms many lessons. If the person is caught in a negative or dead-end marriage, this may be a “wake up” call to show the person what true love feels like. However, it can also be a “wake up” call to reanalyze the marriage and work through difficult times.

So, if your soul mate is married, leave sex out of the relationship. Unless a person is completely heartless, sex attaches emotions and the deeper you commit your soul, the harder it is to heal the wound if the person doesn’t leave the marriage. Do you want to be a lesson and the secret mistress or sex-fling? You may be sleeping with your soul mate, but he or she is also a human with emotions and needs, which does not exempt them from hurting your feelings.   
 
Not cheating demonstrates respect, control and self-confidence. Plus, many do not realize cheating is a test. It is a test to show how mature you are and if you can sustain pleasure. Those who think about the entire party involved can sustain sexual urges with a “big picture” approach. I have found on my journey that those who are astrologically more impulsive such as fire and mutable signs (there are many factors to this and any sign can be impulsive) can “more easily” fall into bed. Can you control your impulsive side? The way I view the situation, it is best to cherish the friendship than to ruin a deep bond caused from resentment or messy webs. 

Second, do not force or expect the other person to leave his or her marriage. When leaving a marriage, a person considers many logical and spiritual parts of human existence. A person analyzes everything from finances, length of relationship, children and the hard times. It is up to that person to choose their life course. Persuading, forcing or begging can lead to resentment or push the person away.

Next, this is the hardest for most, but live your life – with confidence. Depending on how vulnerable your psychology is, a spiritual connection can consume the human mind, ego and persona. You may be caught daydreaming about this person and feel lost without him or her. Continue to live your life to what is best for you and your spiritual progress. At the end of the day, you only have yourself to rely on, so its best to maintain your independence without giving your soul away.

Finally, ask yourself, “What am I attracting? And why?” Many people who believe in the Law of Attraction will question why you are attracting an unavailable man. I believe in this notion, but I do think people come up at unexpected times to challenge each other. If you see a pattern of continuously attracting unavailable men or women, then the answer is deep within you as to why. Or, those previous experiences could prepare you for this experience. Either way, it is good to check in with yourself as to why.

One of the biggest challenges is to understand the meeting and timing between the two people. Many will question, “why now” or “where was he three years earlier?” With deep spiritual understanding and trusting your instincts, you can better analyze the situation.

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